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With proximity comes the possibility for connection. If we are in close contact with someone, there is the potential for an intuitive alignment to flourish. After spending a bit of time with someone, we may desire to spend more time with them. Or we may simply be crossing paths.

As the connection deepens, so does the desire to treat each other well. We go from being strangers to becoming known supporters of each other’s happiness. Even within families and friendships, the bonds we experience are built on connection. Connection is based in the mind’s innate ability to love. However, the mind also contains a strong drive to crave, which ends up conditioning our perceptions of what we encounter and our reactions to what we feel.

The deep connections that we feel toward our loved ones are often wrapped up and mixed in with attachments, not because we wish to make things difficult, but because the mind has a strong tendency to crave and control. Attachments cloud the true love that deep connections emanate. Attachments create much friction in relationships because they stand in the way of individual freedom.

There is nothing wrong with wanting certain things in a relationship, but we must resist coercing others. Instead we should build strong pathways of honest and calm communication so that both people can feel clearly understood. It is through this mutually shared understanding that each individual commits voluntarily to supporting the harmony of the relationship.

A love without attachment is not a love without commitment. Attachments are attempts at control marked by deep inner tension; voluntary commitments are attempts at supporting happiness and harmony marked by generosity.

we walk through time together holding hands as the world changes living in love as we grow as individuals meeting each other in the middle as our youth gives way to maturity

Both the essay and the poem are excerpts from Clarity & Connection, which is 33% off on Amazon.

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