The DINK Lifestyle Is Ruining Traditional Families. Here's Why.
I'm confused and to be honest, quite disappointed. There are plenty of couples out there who have fertility issues, who for a variety of reasons have a double income and no kids - chief among them that even supposedly middle class couples have one paycheck being entirely absorbed by rent. That means paycheck #2 is dedicated to necessities, savings or paying back a student loan if you're lucky, and maybe after all that, something fun.
I would also like to point out that plenty of people plan for a child, would love a child, and then lose multiple children. These couples look functionally NO different than the couples you denigrate here. So they turn to having pets and travel! It's no business of yours why that is, the truth may be heartbreaking, and it's unacceptably rude to assume that their lives are less fulfilling or less meaningful than yours just because you're having kids.
This episode was a very clear "think before you speak" opportunity and neither of you did. I wish you all the best in your pregnancy and child rearing, but I dearly hope you don't express these opinions around people whose fertility struggles make life hard. Your judgment doesn't make anything easier for them. Compassion is key.
Not strawman arguments, not elevating ourselves and our choices above that of others, but thinking and speaking in love towards others.
PS - raising a dog is grossly underestimated here. You must provide limits and discipline. How your dog behaves or doesn't reflects on you, albeit in not as serious a way as a child. They are not self sustaining or self monitoring. I don't think the two should have been compared at all. Especially since some people's kids will developmentally "never grow up", it was a poor comparison.
Wishing you all the best.
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