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Note: I had a Substack hiccup earlier today. Substack sent out an email for a post that is scheduled, but not yet live. If you got the email and can’t read the post, don’t worry! You’ll be able to in about two weeks! And onward…

Last weekend, a MGTOW dude spent about six hours of his Saturday leaving long diatribes on every single blog post I’ve ever made outlining all the reasons he’s so happy without women and so glad he doesn’t have to interact with them. So what caused him to devote so much time to a woman (that would be me) who so clearly did not want to talk to him?

I wrote an article outlining some of the ways marriage harms women and advantages men.

You’d think a dude so rabidly opposed to relationships with women would be thrilled to find a woman encouraging women not to get married. But of course, MGTOW has never actually been about men going their own way. These dudes won’t separate from women because they’re dependent on them. They need, and want, women to do chores for them, to run their lives for them, to tell them how great they are. They just don’t think they should have to do anything to earn these favors. The fact that women are actual humans who have expectations is the real reason they’re so mad at women.

It’s why these “happily single” guys spend so much time contacting women like me.

Anyway, it got me thinking about all the ridiculous and false claims men make, and I’ve rounded up a small sampling. Be sure to add your own in the comments!

I’m an overgrown baby who can’t do the basic tasks necessary to sustain my family. So my wife has to constantly remind me.

I can’t find someone who’s willing to have sex with me when marriage is no longer mandatory for women, so I’m hopeful that berating women for being single will convince them to be with me.

I think I’m entitled to sex and that my wife is a sex object, but I’m not offering her sex worth having, or doing enough to make her become interested in sex with me.

I believe that men should not have to support the children they help to make, and that they should benefit from women’s work indefinitely without having to financially contribute.

Also, family courts are biased against women, not men.

It’s definitely me, because men who are actually good care about the exploitation of women, and don’t respond to feminist discourse with reminders that not all men are monsters. Send them to the Not All Men hotline.

That’s bad, too. But men who make this claim almost always seem to think that “abuse” (read: modestly unkind treatment) of men is an excuse for men to do whatever they damn well please to women.

I smell bad.

I am so committed to the idea of masculinity as violent, lazy, and predatory that I see attacks on these behaviors as attacks on men.

I hit women who say things I don’t like.

I want an excuse to hit women.

I like hitting women.

A few small updates from my subscribers!

First, check me out on the Divorce Survival Podcast with the lovely Kate Anthony.

I got temporarily banned from Facebook yet again. This time, about 100 completely innocuous comments I made over the course of several weeks were flagged as spam or hate speech. This included, for example, commenting on a picture of my daughter by clarifying her hair color and sending well wishes to a friend whose child died.

Usually when I get sanctioned, Facebook tells me it will push my posts lower, making them less visible. This directly impacts my ability to reach subscribers. Yet the men who harass my followers face no consequences. There’s no appeal process anymore, and it’s impossible to get a person to look at these AI-generated automatic sanctions.

Are there actual humans running Facebook anymore? Or has Mark Zuckerberg already uploaded his entire brain to the metaverse?

I am confident this will continue. Facebook and other social media sites are determined to punish feminist creators. Subscribing here helps because it gives me a safe platform for what is beginning to feel like my inevitable ban from Facebook. There’s a weird algorithm thing almost everywhere: the more people view your posts, the more visible they become to everyone else. So viewing, sharing, commenting, etc. are all helpful on Substack for widening my audience (that’s also true on Facebook, so be sure to like and comment on stuff you like there!) And widening my audience means fueling the feminist resistance, and mainstreaming the idea that, oh shit, mothers actually are people who matter.

Oh, and BTW, if you truly can’t afford a paid subscription but you still need some help in the support group, just email me at zawn.villines@gmail.com, and I’ll give you a fee waiver. The rest of you, though: I hope you’ll consider subscribing, and sharing my work!

I’m also trying, and mostly failing, to use Twitter more. But I might try more if I get more followers. Here I am.

Also! Next week I’ll be doing another #AMA on my Facebook page. So be sure to save your questions for Wednesday, March 22.

I’ll release data from the Sex in Relationships survey two paid subscribers only in two weeks. Unpaid subscribers get access two weeks later, so now is a great time to subscribe. Plus I’m doing a whole additional newsletter each week for paid subscribers.

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