The Vilomah Project - by Lisa McGreevy
The Vilomah Project is an idea that clawed its way out of my grief-addled brain after my son, Christopher, took his life when he was 18.
In the aftermath, I looked for people, support groups, or websites for people who had also lost a child, but nothing was quite right. Religion-based support isn’t a good fit for me, and neither are groups that toss around cliches like, “they're at peace now” and call it a day.
I wanted to interact with people…well, parents…okay, mothers who were still upright after their child died and were willing to acknowledge this shit is so hard.
I’m still looking.
The Vilomah Project is the resource I wish I’d had from the start. Vilomah is a Sanskrit word meaning “against the natural order.” I can’t think of anything more out of order than a parent outliving their child. All vilomahs are welcome here.
I’ve been hammering out some ideas around this project for more than a year, and this newsletter is just one element. But that’s a post for another time. For now, expect to see a weekly newsletter with thoughts, tips, ideas, and (I hope) comfort for grieving parents.
In the meantime, I’ve added a batch of blog posts I’ve written since this absolute nightmare began. Take a look through them, or simply join me in going forward from here. You do you.
To the vilomahs out there who feel like no one understands: I see you and I do understand.
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